Are you a Rebel or a Nonconformist ?

“Think Different”. The perfect tagline a Rebel can ever have but yet can we define a Rebel on just the ability that he thinks differently from others? By that logic there is absolutely no difference between a Rebel and a nonconformist.

I have met many people who are proud of being a nonconformist but what does it actually mean? Is a nonconformist a person whose behaviour or views do not conform to prevailing ideas or practices? Or is a he person who breaks the conventional ideas prevailing in society and makes a major dent in the universe. Sadly, the latter can never be true for a nonconformist and that in itself is a major difference between a Nonconformist and a Rebel!

I agree that the demarcation between the above two argument is not very clear. So before understanding the differences let’s observe the similarities. We are bound to the society by rules, dogma and the opium for the masses (read religion). A person who defies all these rules and dogma; and challenges the conventional ideas is both a Rebel and a nonconformist. Sadly, the similarities tend to end over here.

A Nonconformist defies prevailing ideas just to challenge the society. A Nonconformist is a Maverick; he defies society just to standout. A nonconformist is the one who will walk to north if asked to head to south. The person will always do exactly the opposite of what we ask him/her to do. This is the reason why a nonconformist can never be a Rebel! The sole reason being a nonconformist can be manipulated; just by asking him to do the opposite of what we want! A nonconformist that way is just a puppet in the hands of the society.

A Rebel on the other hand, is an idea! He is also the “IDIOT” who mocks conventional wisdom, breaks rules, defies authority and has no respect for the status quo. For this reason, they are always labelled as the trouble makers! Like Mahatma Gandhi who was labelled by britishers, like martin Luther king by the Whites or like ANNA HAZARE by the Congress. If history tells us something, it is that the people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world are the ones who do!

Inspiration: Osho (The Rebel)

Homosexuality

Majority, that's the word on which the entire democracy is built.Its not peoples rule its the rule of the Majority.so its not astonishing(ya i am liberal with the word astonishing) when people say that, what majority thinks is always right!
Humans are always afraid of the things which they don't understand and that's the reason why there is such wide spread hatred for homosexuals from the "Majority".

The reason why i choose to write on this topic is, the other day i was having a chat with one of my friend(we will call her PC, if i include her name i am sure she will kill me lol) and eventually this topic came up. she had the same misconceptions which i used to have.i wasn't surprised by the statements she made coz that's the exact thing which is going inside the minds of the majority and at some point even i used to share the same misconceptions.at the end of the discussion i was able to change her mind which eventually gave me the idea to write on this topic and clear the air for the poor souls.
i am writing this blog in a dialogue format( PC is my friend's name and i am ...... AP)
(some statements i have added on my own which i thought should be included but were not raised by PC).

PC: Homosexuality is a western concept
AP: Now u might be astonished by my answer but homosexuality is not a western concept.actually its not even a concept its a reality!
.In retrospect, the section 377 was not written by an Indian it was written by a British lord. when lord Macaulay wrote 377, it was a time when the western world was homophobic . they even burnt a gay live on a cross! so it was the western world which brought homophobia to India because before 377 India was sexually free! . i am sure ur still not satisfied by my theory so lets c her 2nd statement.

PC: Homosexuality is not a part of Indian culture.
AP: Actually it is! right from Sikhandi in mahabharat(the one who is the reason why bhishma dies!) to kamasutra or the khajuraho temple all talk about homosexuality which is not true for western culture.In fact, in indian culture an eunuch's blessing is considered as a good omen for a newborn child. was there a single homosexual in western culture ? so how can homosexuality be a western influence.the only reason why people associate it as western influence is because western people are broadminded and they did not have a obnoxious arrogant reticent attitude like we do!

PC: Homosexuality causes aids
AP: First of all diseases don't have sexual orientations."One has an equally high chance of contracting HIV/AIDS through vaginal sex as with anal sex.For people concerned with contracting the virus through anal or vaginal sex, the best way to prevent from contracting this disease is to know your partner's sexual history and of course use protection".(the lines inside the double quotes are not written by me, i got it from a doctor friend)

PC: Homosexuality is against nature.
AP: Its quite unfair to say that what we do is natural and what they do is unnatural.coz like us even they r a part of nature and thus are humans and not freaks!
but than that's not a proper reasoning so if u need facts.... how about this,Homosexual behavior does occur in the animal kingdom outside humans, especially in social species, particularly in marine birds and mammals, monkeys, and the great apes. Homosexual behavior has been observed among 1,500 species, and in 500 of those it is well documented!
To turn the approach on its head: No species has been found in which homosexual behavior has not been shown to exist, with the exception of species that never have sex at all, such as sea urchins and aphis. Moreover, a part of the animal kingdom is hermaphroditic, truly bisexual. For them, homosexuality is not an issue.I am sure like us even animals are part of nature.so if homosexuality is natural among other species of nature then how does it become unnatural among humans?

PC: Homosexuality is a mental disease and they need psychiatric help
AP: i was not able to to give a proper reasoning against this statement so had to search online for it and got these lines from an actual gay person:(his orkut name is Thor aka T)
"well, having struggled with homosexuality since the age of 13 to 14, having tried to 'cure' it and having had to finally confront the fact that it couldn't be 'cured' (that is never feel same-sex-attraction in a way that I don't have to repress anything anymore)".
we think its a mental disease coz we were wired to believe that homosexuality is a crime its unnatural etc etc what we fail to understand is that, it is a reality and that what they really need is not any treatment but support from the people they love(as in their friends and parents)

I guess the blog is becoming too huge so to sum up, everyone has the right to live a life of dignity and have the right for privacy.Homosexuals are no different because even they are humans and even they deserve.............FREEDOM!


P.S: India has got a population of more than a billion, a couple of homos is gonna be a big help ;-)

Anger........

I just saw Anger Management for the second time. The movie is exhilarating(lol couldn't think of a better adjective than this one). It is the kind of movie which makes u think and forces u to introspect . The people who have seen this movie wouldn't agree with me and would just think that i am trying to adulate the movie and i am being grandiloquent with my blog because there are only two kind of people who wont like the movie the ones who hate Adam Sandler(which r very very few) and the others who think they don't have an anger issue!

Talking about the movie,the thing which i liked the most about it was when Jack Nicholson talks about the two anger clubs.The first one is the active anger club , who r intimidated on the drop of a hat. They are constantly angry and are always on the hunt for weak souled people,so that they can vent out their anger on them.They use anger to hide their weakness and justify it by saying that its their nature and cant be changed. They have an inveterate anger issue while the other kind which is more intriguing belong to the passive anger club.The astonishing thing is that each and everyone of us are divided only in these two clubs! but before i go on about the passive anger club lets see what the word Personality means.

Personality, this is a very common word used and heard by majority of us at one time or another.(sorry for drifting away from the main topic i guess i share the feminine quality of being discursive in nature lol, no need to ponder on it because the similarity ends there!). Etymologically speaking,the word Personality has a very powerful origin.It is derived from the Latin word "Persona".Persona literally means the mask that is worn over the face by the actor on the stage.The actor in an unknown , anonymous being who remains intrinsically aloof from the play.The real being is concealed and veiled in the costumes of the play and what the audience sees is just the persona and are oblivious to the actors true self. the actor exploits this oblivious nature of the audience and show them what they want to see, hiding the reality of his true being and giving them a false "Perception" by his brilliant acting skills.The people who belong to the passive anger club always wear this "Persona"!

Now coming back to the movie , Jack Nicholson narrates a nice story to adam sandler about passive anger, the story goes something like, there was a bank employee named varun(the name is fictitious) who was always very quite and polite in nature.He was an introvert with morality and veracity dripping from him and because of his silent nature one of his colleague (we will call him.... Sandy) Sandy used to think of him as a soft target and used to vent out other people's anger on him and since he never used to reply back to the uncalled for anger, varun was always his favorite punchbag. Each and everyday Sandy used to bash varun verbally for even the slightest mistake one could make.Sandy's entire anger be it because of his boss, his wife or his pesky neighbors was showered on the poor soul, varun.
Finally a day came when varun took a shotgun and blew up Sandy's brain all over the office
floor!

I guess now u might know in which club u fall!
The entire movie was on the passive anger club,where adam sandler used to suffer from passive anger.The thing which i "perceived" was those who compress their anger and never let it out always vent out their anger aggressively and always suffer its consequences . Its a nice thing to control your anger but acting like your immune to it doesn't help.To avoid this one can try to be assertive(but not aggressive) i.e stating clearly whenever something makes u angry and try to vent it out at that moment itself so that it doesn't give a false impression to others that u can be taken for granted!

If you are from the active anger club I can only advice u that whenever u feel angry try to imagine something which makes u happy or calms u down, it can be a picture of someone or a beautiful scenery of snow capped mountains, whatever works for u or just get out of that situation for sometime or if its because of some person stop talking to them whenever they make u angry and then try to put yourself in their place and then try to analyze whether what they
said to u was valid or not. This way u will be able to understand that person much better and u would also not have any remorse of saying things which u never meant to say! because an
Angry friend's words are always more hurtful than an enemies disparaging comments......



P.S. : Anger is a weak man's imitation of strength ......

Perception

Sorry people for the long hiatus between my last blog n this one. I was lost in numbers so couldn't think of any words to write a new blog(my cat(pun intended) is making me brain dead). anyway , since my friends have gone nuts reading about history i have decided to take a break n try to write on some different topics.

The other day i was watching this movie called charlie Wilson's war(tooooo good movie if u like history n war movies,tom hanks acting was simply awesome!) no need to close the window guys i am not gonna write about history here so relax! during the commercial break i watched a commercial by John Abraham the one in which he is trying to sell fairness cream for men by giving crap about instant results.i mean seriously fairness cream for men ? whats next r they going to offer us lipstick, mascara or tampons ?

The commercial though made me think how the entire male world has gone crazy towards metro sexuality. The best thing is some guys r using these female products n they try to get away with it by calling themselves metro sexual! but even then why suddenly there is this exponential rise in the metro sexual community is it because of civilization ? nope ....

I tried to search the answer to that in the arcane world of the internet n i came across this astonishing survey. According to this survey , 93.8% of females like guys who have a feminine face. The first word which came into my mind was BULLSHIT!(because that cuts down my pool of eligible girls to 6.2% ;-)) but then after giving some thoughts to it, i read the line again with the 93.8% figure in it and i tried to imagine Zac efron,Tom cruise , Owen wilson or Tobey maguire in my mind. voila ! the figure was right(my bad luck i guess)

i Guess that's the reason why there is this sudden rise in the metrosexual community. no wonder that maximum gays r from this metrosexual community because down the line they forget who they actually are!

Even then i guess its not their fault , we r stuck in this world of perception that we no longer know whats real. we perceive what we think is real, run behind this so called metro sexual celebrities.always chasing them so that we can be like them n no wonder where most of them end up.

Speaking of perception i remember a small story from my college days. i don't want to use real names so i am using fictional names here. The story is about raj and riya.raj was the kind of guy who always used to go out with beautiful girls one after the other his adventures not lasting for more than 2 months with any of them but for my surprise he was always very friendly with riya . riya was not that beautiful like the kind he used to go out with but not that bad either. both of them were great friends n had habits more common than a pair of twins. so one day i asked this guy, "if u really like to hang out with these plastic barbie girls than how come u share such a nice bond with riya " to which he replied, "these girls r pretty n beautiful but r damn boring . They always go on and on and on about how pretty they look n why they never understand why every guy likes them n do stupid things for them blah blah blah but the thing about riya is that she is cute n good looking but she doesn't have that air of arrogance or vanity n is too interesting n fun than any of those barbie girls put together" . so my next obvious question was " Then why do u hang out with them when u don't like their company ?" to which he replied "
" because dude ......... they are hotttt! "

If ur cursing raj , than lemme tell u we r no different than him like him even we r blinded by the world of perception.we always judge a book by its cover n weight and not by what lies inside of it !

i would like 2 share an anecdote about two eminent historical figures( common guys how can my blog b complete without adding history in it ;-) ).

we will call these two guys as X and Y,

Now here was Mr.X a non-vegetarian, who liked to drink ,had a lisp and stuttered whenever he used to speak, used to treat his wife very badly etc etc

while Mr. Y was a vegetarian, highly disciplined, non alcoholic, a great orator n used to love dogs

Now the people who r stuck in the world of perception might think that Mr Y is better than Mr. X !

The truth is however very paradoxical, cause Mr. X's name is Winston Churchill while Mr.Y's
name is ADOLF HITLER !




P.S : A small tip to the metrosexual community , Instead of wasting ur time on fairness creams, pink coloured attire, earrings, manicure, body waxing etc etc try gauging what kind of person u really are. Its better to be a unique nobody than being a bawdy somebody!