Anger........

I just saw Anger Management for the second time. The movie is exhilarating(lol couldn't think of a better adjective than this one). It is the kind of movie which makes u think and forces u to introspect . The people who have seen this movie wouldn't agree with me and would just think that i am trying to adulate the movie and i am being grandiloquent with my blog because there are only two kind of people who wont like the movie the ones who hate Adam Sandler(which r very very few) and the others who think they don't have an anger issue!

Talking about the movie,the thing which i liked the most about it was when Jack Nicholson talks about the two anger clubs.The first one is the active anger club , who r intimidated on the drop of a hat. They are constantly angry and are always on the hunt for weak souled people,so that they can vent out their anger on them.They use anger to hide their weakness and justify it by saying that its their nature and cant be changed. They have an inveterate anger issue while the other kind which is more intriguing belong to the passive anger club.The astonishing thing is that each and everyone of us are divided only in these two clubs! but before i go on about the passive anger club lets see what the word Personality means.

Personality, this is a very common word used and heard by majority of us at one time or another.(sorry for drifting away from the main topic i guess i share the feminine quality of being discursive in nature lol, no need to ponder on it because the similarity ends there!). Etymologically speaking,the word Personality has a very powerful origin.It is derived from the Latin word "Persona".Persona literally means the mask that is worn over the face by the actor on the stage.The actor in an unknown , anonymous being who remains intrinsically aloof from the play.The real being is concealed and veiled in the costumes of the play and what the audience sees is just the persona and are oblivious to the actors true self. the actor exploits this oblivious nature of the audience and show them what they want to see, hiding the reality of his true being and giving them a false "Perception" by his brilliant acting skills.The people who belong to the passive anger club always wear this "Persona"!

Now coming back to the movie , Jack Nicholson narrates a nice story to adam sandler about passive anger, the story goes something like, there was a bank employee named varun(the name is fictitious) who was always very quite and polite in nature.He was an introvert with morality and veracity dripping from him and because of his silent nature one of his colleague (we will call him.... Sandy) Sandy used to think of him as a soft target and used to vent out other people's anger on him and since he never used to reply back to the uncalled for anger, varun was always his favorite punchbag. Each and everyday Sandy used to bash varun verbally for even the slightest mistake one could make.Sandy's entire anger be it because of his boss, his wife or his pesky neighbors was showered on the poor soul, varun.
Finally a day came when varun took a shotgun and blew up Sandy's brain all over the office
floor!

I guess now u might know in which club u fall!
The entire movie was on the passive anger club,where adam sandler used to suffer from passive anger.The thing which i "perceived" was those who compress their anger and never let it out always vent out their anger aggressively and always suffer its consequences . Its a nice thing to control your anger but acting like your immune to it doesn't help.To avoid this one can try to be assertive(but not aggressive) i.e stating clearly whenever something makes u angry and try to vent it out at that moment itself so that it doesn't give a false impression to others that u can be taken for granted!

If you are from the active anger club I can only advice u that whenever u feel angry try to imagine something which makes u happy or calms u down, it can be a picture of someone or a beautiful scenery of snow capped mountains, whatever works for u or just get out of that situation for sometime or if its because of some person stop talking to them whenever they make u angry and then try to put yourself in their place and then try to analyze whether what they
said to u was valid or not. This way u will be able to understand that person much better and u would also not have any remorse of saying things which u never meant to say! because an
Angry friend's words are always more hurtful than an enemies disparaging comments......



P.S. : Anger is a weak man's imitation of strength ......